Would you rather remember your deceased loved ones as they were when they were alive or as they were when dead

I was just wondering, because I was thinking of an elderly lady I once knew who owned a flower shop. One of her husbands had died back in the 1950s when a tractor fell on him and crushed him. And she always had old black and white photos of him lying in his coffin on display in her flower shop for all to see. I remember that six years ago, when my grandmother died, it didn't even seem as though she was there when I attended her funeral. I remember seeing her lying in her coffin, but her body just looked like the empty shell that it now was. My mom has pictures of her from when she was alive, and I prefer to think of my grandma as being alive and with a smile on her face than as a corpse that bears no resemblance to her when she was alive. What do you think?

Would you rather remember your deceased loved ones as they were when they were alive or as they were when dead
Wow, that's an interesting story. I guess it's a personal choice, but I would think that's kind of morbid.





I have disturbing images in my head of my mother in the last 2 weeks of her life, and when she was dead. That was exactly 2 yrs. ago. But I prefer to think of her when she was alive, vital %26amp; healthy, w/ a smile that could light up a room. I picture her doing something she really loved, like volunteer work, gardening, entertaining guests %26amp; uncorking a bottle of wine. She really sparkled. *sniffles*
Reply:I prefer to remember them as they were when they were alive!!
Reply:I would rather remember them alive and of all the good times we shared
Reply:I agree, I would rather remember them as they were when they were alive.
Reply:A friend of mine have pictures of some of her relatives in their coffins. It kind of creeps me out. I would rather remember them when they were alive...their spirit.
Reply:Alive. I think that funeral pictures are morbidly not needed. I once went to Boston and visited this Victorian house/museum. In the Victorian days they would have these grand photos taken of the dead person posed. It really weirded me out. The person would be sitting upright dead in this professional photo as if they were alive. My mom has a picture of my dead grandfather that I only knew as an infant and I can never think of him in any other way since I've seen that photo. It has strangely scarred me.
Reply:That's exactly why I want to be cremated...I do not want people looking at my dead, lifeless body laying in a box! I want to be remembered as the funny lively person that I am...
Reply:I HAVE PICTURES OF MY GRANDMOTHER BEFORE AND AFTER





I WOULD PREFER TO REMEMBER HER IN BOTH WAYS
Reply:alive and I think taking pictures of people in their coffin is just bizarre but live and let live, no pun intended.
Reply:I agree with you. I'd rather remember them alive. My favorite pics of Maman and Daddy are in the kitchen at the house, with their dog...Daddy just loved that silly thing, and taught it all sorts of tricks. (Pomeranian). Daddy asked me to take pictures of Maman at her funeral, but I think it was less a memory thing than to remind himself she was gone and he was safe! She was MEAN when she was sick, and he took care of her as long as he could.
Reply:I think the lady in the flower shop was morbid to have a picture of her deceased husband on display. Remember loved ones as you remember them in your heart!
Reply:as they were when they were alive
Reply:as they were when alive

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